Time for disc cleanup: time to forgive and forget

Someone hurts you and your immediate reaction (according to Newton’s 3^rd law of action and reaction) is to get back to that person (slap, kick, punch…etc etc..) Sometimes you are lucky enough to get what you want; else the ideas and words (read profanities) clog your mind. And as fishes rise to the surface crowding water surface as you throw some food, similarly these memories emerge with the mention of a name, an incident, or the person himself/herself. 

But in your intention to hurt the other person you actually end up being miffed yourself. You wanna know the reason? Firstly the “damn it I still can’t beat him/her” feeling, secondly all those unhappy thoughts come back to you. Again you end up feeling more miserable. And in a case where that’s exactly what the other Miss/Mr. intended to do, what are you doing? I’ll tell you, you are actually helping them. So before you get irritated and try and get back to me I’ll tell you what I feel should be done to get even. I think you should try and forgive and if that’s not possible then forget. Now before you say/think “ohho what’s new in that”, I would say there is no other way.

Ok simple reasons to support that. Primarily what do you want to do? Get even, right? Haven’t you heard about the saying, “forgiveness is the best revenge”. Well it is absolutely true. By forgiving you are disappointing (big time) the opponent, coz once he/she has hurt you, they would be expecting some more. You are now spoiling their plans. So you can do Oo..la..la and dance while your rival cribs.

Forgiveness is not just limited to revenge. It makes you realize the other person’s point of view. You spare some time and think from their perspective. How long is it too long to hold on to such memories? C’mon people accept the fact that there are better things to store in your long term memory. Why waste that much memory? I tell you such memories are really bulky. So clean up your disc and get rid of the irrelevant. Obviously you would like to remember the pertinent concepts instead of the unnecessary things.

And the best reason for forgiving and forgetting is coz you yourself would feel great. It is like for quite sometimes you have been straining your nerves, or like you are at a place where you are not getting enough air to breathe, and this hot place is draining out the life out of you. After forgiving and forgetting it’s like you your nerves are relaxed, and the pleasant breeze greets you and you feel revitalized.

So for getting that smile back on your face, forgive and forget not just others, but yourself as well for the times, when you have let yourself down. Forget sad memories, forgive people for disappointing you and you will help yourself.

And if you can’t afford the market leader i.e. forgiveness then try forgetting (the next best thing) and that smile on your face would visit you more often. So don’t wait, get started with the disc clean up.

THANK GOD FOR A POOR MEMORY

How many times have you cursed yourself for forgetting things? Many times I must say, ask me I happen to forget a lot of things and then its “oh damn! I forgot this, I forgot that.” And don’t even get me started about forgetting formulae and stuff in exams.  For the guys, ask them what happens after forgetting an important date? Oh they are gone…God save them from the ire of the ladies in their lives! So forgetting is a horrible..terrible thing, right?? I don’t think so…I thank my poor memory instead for its ability to forget.

I believe that forgetfulness is a blessing in disguise. I remember I had read somewhere (I forgot where) about R K Narayan saying the same thing. Forgetting is the very wise mechanism designed by nature to help us maintain our sanity, to recover from setbacks and for our betterment. Believe it people; a bad memory is definitely a good asset. Just because of the reason that a person has a bad memory he/she can let go of things and memories that might harm him/her.

A bad memory makes you resilient, you forget failures and begin afresh. If you are in the habit of remembering each and everything, God knows how many bad memories you will still hold on to. You won’t be able to forgive. Actually forgetting is the next best thing to forgiving.It helps in maintaining relationships bringing people closer.

Your bad memory works hard to distract you from the things that trouble you. Ever thought while you had a fight with one of your friend and had decided that now you won’t talk to him/her again, the next day he/she cracks a joke and you forget the quarrel and laugh, this forgetting habit helps breaking the ice. Consider the time when you are really sad about something, and then your cell beeps, you read it’s a funny message and you get that momentary distraction and smile. There are instances when you tried really hard but could not succeed, and fail, imagine what would have happened had you not forgotten those failures and moved ahead, I’ll tell you, you would have never succeeded. This is the power of forgetting takes you from failures to success and still you crib about bad memory. What else you want from it?

So next time don’t curse your poor memory that much, remember the times it saved your sanity.  Now don’t forget that. But of course there are some things that of course you should not forget, NEVER forget what the lady says is important, now that would be suicidal, nothing can save you from that and don't blame me I had warned you. Just forget the things that are painful and unnecessary. We must remember to forget. I really thank God for a bad memory, it has helped me so much thorough out my life.:)